A Christmas story from Blessac
He sat in his truck for twenty minutes every night. Last Christmas, I found out why.
He never says what’s on his heart. So I gave him somewhere to write it.
Story by the Blessac team · 6-minute read
Every night last fall, I heard Dale’s truck pull into the driveway at ten after six.
Then I heard the engine shut off.
And then nothing.
No door. No boots on the porch steps. Just the truck, sitting in the dark, with my husband inside it.
Twenty minutes, most nights. Sometimes longer.
Then he’d come in, kiss my cheek, wash his hands at the sink, and say the same two words.
“Long day.”
Thirty-one years with a quiet man
We’ve been married thirty-one years. Dale is the steady one. He fixes the gutter before I notice it’s loose. He drives over to his mom’s on Saturdays to check her furnace.
He prays before every meal. He’s at church every Sunday, third pew, aisle seat.
But he does not talk about what’s on his heart. Not to me. Not to anybody.
That fall, I knew something was heavy. There was talk of cuts at the plant. His mom needed knee surgery. He and our son Jake had words at Thanksgiving, and nobody called anybody after.
I asked. Of course I asked.
“I’m fine, hon.”
And that was that.
So I did what wives do. I prayed for him every morning at the kitchen table.
I just didn’t know what to pray for.
Every gift I’d already tried
Christmas was coming. His name sat at the bottom of my list with nothing next to it. Like every year.
I’ve given that man flannel shirts. A gift card to the hardware store. A nice pocketknife that is still in its box.
He always says, “Thanks, hon.” And he means it.
But nothing I ever gave him touched what he was carrying.
One year I bought him a book of daily readings for men. He read it for a week. Then it ended up under the TV remote.
It wasn’t that he didn’t care. They were somebody else’s words.
What Ruth told me at Wednesday supper
In November, I sat next to Ruth at our church’s Wednesday supper. Her husband, Walt, served as a deacon for forty years. He went home to the Lord two springs ago.
I told her about the truck.
She smiled like she’d heard it a hundred times.
“Walt did the same thing,” she said. “Men don’t talk it out, honey. They work it out. You just have to give him a place to put it.”
Then she told me about Walt’s prayer book.
It wasn’t a diary. Walt would never have kept a diary.
“It had boxes,” she said. “Little boxes with a word on top. He wouldn’t write me a letter to save his life. But he’d fill in a box.”
I thought about that the whole drive home.
Why the boxes matter
Here’s what I finally understood.
A blank page asks a man to pour out his heart. Most men freeze.
A box asks one small question.
What’s on your heart? Where do you need God to guide you? What are you grateful for today?
A man can answer one small question. He can write five words and be done.
And five honest words to God, most mornings, add up.
A blank page asks for a speech.
A box asks one small question.
The journal I found for him
So I went looking for a prayer journal built like Walt’s, and made for a man.
I found it at a small Christian shop called Blessac. Here’s what it looks like.
The one I chose has a dark brown cover with big gold letters: MAN of GOD. Under them, a knight kneels with his sword held upright, in front of a lion and a cross. Across the bottom are the words of 1 Timothy 6:11: “Pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, endurance and gentleness.”
I looked at that cover and thought, that’s Dale.
Not the knight part. The kneeling part.
Inside, every Daily Prayer page has the same ten short boxes:
- Scripture Verse the verse for today
- Things On My Heart what’s weighing on him before he prays
- Adoration praise God for who He is
- Guide Me where he needs God’s direction
- Confession what he needs to set right
- Teach Me what he wants God to teach him
- Prayer Request tick Myself, Family & Friends, Country or Community
- Lord, I Am Grateful For a few of today’s blessings
- Lord’s Answer what came after he prayed
- Application what he’ll do with it today
The pages have no dates printed on them. He writes the date and circles the day, so a missed day never wastes a page.
There’s a page in the front that explains every box. In the back: a Prayer Tracker, verses for 18 hard topics, and prayers written out for the days the words won’t come.
It’s paperback size, 5.7 × 8.3 in. It sits right on top of his Bible, with an elastic band, a pen loop and a ribbon.
Christmas morning
Dale opened it last. He turned it over in his hands. He read the cover twice.
Then he said it.
“Thanks, hon.”
My heart sank a little. There it is, I thought. Another pocketknife.
The morning after
The next morning I came downstairs at a quarter after eight.
Dale was at the kitchen table. Coffee. Reading glasses. The journal open. Pen moving.
He looked up and laid his hand flat on the page. Not hiding it. Just saying, this one’s mine.
I poured my coffee and left him be. I have never read a word of it. I never will.
Twenty minutes later he walked into the living room. “Want to go get breakfast? Just us.”
We drove to the diner out by the highway.
And over eggs and too much coffee, my husband told me about work.
All of it.
The cuts they’d been talking about since September. How worried he’d been. The overtime that came through right before Christmas. How he’d been short with Jake at Thanksgiving, and too proud to call him.
I sat there with my fork in the air.
Thirty-one years. He had never talked to me like that.
It wasn’t a miracle. He’s still a quiet man. But something had found a way out.
What I understood later
I didn’t need to read his journal to know what happened.
He told God first. On paper. Five words at a time.
And once he’d said it to God, he could say it to me.
He’s on his second journal now. Some days it’s two lines. Some days he skips. The pages don’t mind.
And sometime in January, I noticed something else.
The truck pulls in. The engine shuts off. And the door opens right away now.
If you’re married to a quiet man
Maybe your husband doesn’t sit in his truck. Maybe it’s the garage. The porch. The recliner with the TV on and nobody watching.
Every quiet man has a spot like that.
He doesn’t need another thing. He needs a place to set it down. This is the one I gave Dale.